Dr. Ramani

I found Dr. Ramani about a year before I finally got him out.

I stumbled upon a video, it resonated to say the least. I watched it several times, thinking this is exactly who he is. It was as though she knew him. I don't even remember the exact video, but it came up after looking at things about verbal and emotional abuse. I always thought of abuse as hitting and physical violence. These were not things he did generally. 

One night, he was screaming at me... the usual shitty name calling and accusations. I kept trying to walk away into different rooms, crying. Our son came downstairs and, in a calm, yet forceful manner, told him to stop. He said this is verbal abuse, you need to stop and leave her alone. Then he lay down on the couch for the night. He knew that his dad was very aware of him being right there. He knew that he would stop if someone was around to witness it. This was a pivotal moment.  

I started watching and listening and reading (when he was not around, as he would tear apart anything self-help or psychology related).

Down the rabbit hole I went...I'm reading Dr. Ramani's new book now. Thoughts on it soon.